Mama's Boy Transition
May 19th 2010 02:15
My wife is worried that once our next child is born, our son will start distancing from her as her focus shifts away from him. Her fears aren't without merit-it's already kind of started. Though I hate to say it, our son has always been a bit of a Mama's boy. It's always been my wife that he goes to for comfort when he's hurt or upset, and frankly, I can't blame him. She's better at it than I am. He's generally been more interested in her attention than mine. With her down with the pregnancy nausea, though, the tables are starting to turn. He hasn't really had a choice about whose attention he gets lately. He's getting used to Mommy being out of commission and Daddy taking care of him most of the time, and has been asking to play with me more often rather than Mommy. I can only imagine this will happen even more once summer vacation hits and I'm off work, since we'll only have him going to daycare a few days a week then and I'll be spending a lot more time with him. My wife feels kind of bad about this distancing, and so do I. Not because I don't want to be closer to my son-I do. I just don't want him to get mad that Mommy's not paying enough attention to him. I know that it's inevitable that her attention won't be focused on him like it was before the new child, but he's not going to understand that. He'll have had us all to himself for almost three years by the time our new child is born, and I can't it will be easy for him to get used to having less attention. It's something he'll have to get used to, and he's getting a taste of it now. Still, no matter how much of a Daddy's boy he becomes, my wife will always have at least one thing going- Mommy will always be better at kissing owwies and making them all better!
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