The Great Gender Debate
May 4th 2010 14:00
A big decision is looming for my wife and I, and we're on opposing sides of it. Should we find out the sex of our next child before it's born? We did with our son. We figured we'd be better prepared for the baby if we knew what it was going to be before it was born. That, and people just kept asking! Most parents out there probably know this-the second question usually asked of pregnant couples (behind “when are you due?”) is “are you/did you find out if it's a boy or a girl?” This question is generally followed by more questions about your chosen names, and you hear these questions a LOT.
There are, generally, four options when dealing with this decision. Option one is waiting to find out until the baby is born. Nothing wrong with that. You want it to be a surprise, and hey, that was pretty much the only option aside from old wives' tales for thousands of years. My wife wants to do this option for this pregnancy. She figures we found out with our son, so now we should try one without finding out.
Option two is the exact opposite-finding out. The technology is there, and it's a surprise whether you find out early or late, so why not find out early? This is the choice of impatient and super-curious people everywhere. It's the choice of people who skip to the end of mystery novels. It's the choice I am trying to bring my wife around to.
Option three I hate. It's the “find out but not tell anyone” option. Have you ever met a couple that did that? People ask the standard questions, and the response is “oh, we know, but we're not telling.” Fine. I didn't want to know that bad anyway.
Option four is a little more fun. It's trying to read the ultrasound. I would assume this option is easier if you've already seen several and kind of know what you're looking for. I'm kind of interested in trying this option this time, but only if I'm allowed to ask if I'm right at the end of the ultrasound. What can I say, I'm a curious guy! If it's possible to know something, I want to know it. I'll work my wife around to my point of view eventually. Or maybe bribe the ultrasound tech and just not tell her!
There are, generally, four options when dealing with this decision. Option one is waiting to find out until the baby is born. Nothing wrong with that. You want it to be a surprise, and hey, that was pretty much the only option aside from old wives' tales for thousands of years. My wife wants to do this option for this pregnancy. She figures we found out with our son, so now we should try one without finding out.
Option two is the exact opposite-finding out. The technology is there, and it's a surprise whether you find out early or late, so why not find out early? This is the choice of impatient and super-curious people everywhere. It's the choice of people who skip to the end of mystery novels. It's the choice I am trying to bring my wife around to.
Option three I hate. It's the “find out but not tell anyone” option. Have you ever met a couple that did that? People ask the standard questions, and the response is “oh, we know, but we're not telling.” Fine. I didn't want to know that bad anyway.
Option four is a little more fun. It's trying to read the ultrasound. I would assume this option is easier if you've already seen several and kind of know what you're looking for. I'm kind of interested in trying this option this time, but only if I'm allowed to ask if I'm right at the end of the ultrasound. What can I say, I'm a curious guy! If it's possible to know something, I want to know it. I'll work my wife around to my point of view eventually. Or maybe bribe the ultrasound tech and just not tell her!
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